After reading the book 'The Unbearable Lightness of Being' made me look at infidelity in it's different forms.
There is the form of being the cheater, the other partner and the 'victim'.
In my eyes all are wrong and nobody should be put in the position of being cheated on.
What is infidelity though? Is it just flirting? or more serious like a kiss, before the obvious sex?
I don't think that flirting is infidelity, anything from a snog would be what I class as cheating. After all the exchange of bodily fluids should not be something done without thought! If you are in a relationship that is going nowhere, end it and save everyone the pain and suffering.
Ending a relationship also means that you are able to move on with a clear conscious and without a bad reputation. We have all been there, have you heard about so and so, you don't want to go out with him he has three women on the go etc!
The victim who cheats to get back at their partner is just as bad in my eyes, two wrongs do not make a right, if you are that hurt by the infidelity break up with them, don't lower yourself to make things even!
Looking on the web there are websites for each scenario, so everyone has somewhere to look:
Advice on not being caught http://www.videojug.com
Surviving Infidelity http://www.infidelity.com
Name and Shame http://www.infidelity.co.uk
1 comment:
I do not think that infidelity is just flirting. You are right, i agree that anything from a snog can be seen as cheating and i think it is too. However, you have put that people should just end an relationship if it is going nowhere but it isn't that easy is it?? What if they have kids, i understand they should not be together just for the children's sake but it isn't that easy to end it. It is good to have a clear conscience who wouldn't want to, but it is difficult especially for the victim. The person who cheats is wrong to do it but what if it is one-off then what, you still end the relationship??
Infidelity is wrong, I do agree but i think the two people need to talk and see why it happened instead of just ending the relationship, because there may be more people to think about. Although it may be going no where there sometimes more things to think about, ending it may not be the answer but i think talking about it could be
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